Do you get distressed when friends and neighbours get sick (often seriously ill) have operations and the like when there are some very simple options that would have stopped them needing to ‘go there’.

The Health Support Groups Forums are a big collection of tips mostly very simple.

Recently I’ve had two people with very serious gut problems. One had an operation. It is very sad and painful to watch but I’ve learned from long bitter experience that giving them suggestions about what to do doesn’t work.

Others are in bed with flu and dosed to the hilt with pseudo-ephedrine and full of phlegm.